Happy Mother’s Day – Feliz día de las madres

Happy Mother’s Day

Mother’s day is tomorrow. It’ll be the first time in years that I will not be with my mom on this day. This, of course, made me a little sad. 

The other day, I was watching Oprah’s, Super Soul Sunday. Her guest was Dr. Christiane Northrup. I will never forget what she said, “You can own your pain, but do not dwell in it.”  It’s simply not who we are to dwell in pain. Let’s remember that we are not human beings living a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings living a human experience.  We are joy. We are peace. We are love. 

I’ve always felt especially close to my mother. It was like an inexplicable bond that long remained after I was born. It was like an invisible link—a connection at our hearts marked my early childhood. As a child, I’d do everything and go everywhere with my mami. I wasn’t just attached at the hip, but I was a toddler tantrum and meltdown away if my mom wasn’t around. People called it being spoiled. Others called it separation anxiety. I called it loving my mommy. Words cannot express how much I love her. But, I know she knows. 

There is not a day that passes that I don’t think about her. I am eternally grateful for everything she has done for my brother and my sister, my father, and myself. It is an honor to be her daughter. Happy Mother’s Day, mom. And, Happy Mother’s Day to all beautiful mothers!

This is my mom and I in beautiful Hawaii in 2009.  Mi mamá y yo en Hawaii en 2009.
This is my mom and I in beautiful Hawaii in 2009. Mi mamá y yo en Hawaii en 2009.

 

Feliz día de las madres

Mañana es el día de las madres. Será la primera vez que no estaré con mi madre para este día. Por supuesto, esto me entristece. 

Estaba mirando el programa de Oprah: Super Soul Sunday. Como invitada tuvo a la Dra. Christiane Northrup. Nunca se me olvidará lo que dijo, ” Acepta tu tristeza, pero no te detengas en ello.” Y esto es lo que voy a hacer.  No fuimos creados con tristeza en nuestros corazones. No somos seres humanos viviendo una experiencia espiritual. Somos seres espirituales viviendo una experiencia humana. Somos alegría. Somos paz. Somos amor.

Siempre he sido muy apegada a mi madre. Es un enlace inexplicable que permaneció después de que nací. Era como una conexión invisible de nuestros corazones que marcó mi infancia. De niña, hacía todo con mi mami y la acompañaba a todas partes. Estaba tan apegada a ella que si no la veia era muy probable que tuviera un berrinche.  Habiá gente que pensaba que era una niña mimada, o malcriada. Otros pensaban que era ansiedad de separación. Era mi manera de quererla. No hay palabras que puedan expresar cuanto la quiero. Sé que lo sabe. 

No hay día que pase que no pienso en ella. Estoy agradecida eternamente por todo todo lo que ha hecho por mi hermana, mi hermano, mi padre y para mí. Es un honor ser su hija. Feliz Día de las madres, mamá. Y feliz día de las madres a todas las mamás hermosas. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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On Being Happy…

Happy
Ever since I can remember I have always been curious about many things in life and I am constantly questioning everything. This has included happiness.  In this post, I include what I believe happiness to be and what friends and family have told me what happiness means to them. This is an excerpt from one of my chapters from the memoir: A Happy Heart of my Own.

“In general, I knew certain pleasurable experiences not only made me joyful, but others, as well. I asked friends and family what they considered happiness to be and their answers ranged from playing their favorite sport, to helping others, or simply being in nature. Marcos, a friend of mine, began his response with telling me that happiness to him meant ‘not being stressed.’ And I couldn’t agree with him more. Since when does stress and happiness occur simultaneously? It doesn’t.  One of my family members, Karina, answered by saying, ‘For me it’s when I run and feel the presence of the Lord and I have this immense feeling of gratefulness for everything in my life.’ Another family member of mine, Gloria, very humble began with, ‘I can’t explain true happiness” and added, “all I can say is that I know it when I feel it. Family, friends, humanity, humility, gratefulness, waking to another day, thunder, lighting, the sunshine, a smile, a hug, even nothing can make me feel happiness! But, I can truly say that I experienced true happiness when I learned self-love, when I leaned in to clear my mind and let peace take over. So, happiness to me turns out to be LIFE itself.’

This same harmony, joy, and peace are seen in my friend Carlos’ definition on happiness. He says, ‘For me, happiness is akin to knowing that I am alive. There is something so special going on this planet of ours, something that we’ve yet to discover anywhere else in the universe and most of us (again, particularly in industrialized nations) act as if we couldn’t care less. We have to stop every now and then and take a step back in wonder and amazement. Put things in perspective and take life, with all its glitches, and treat it like what it is: the best, most unique gift in the world.’

What a beautiful combination of different interpretations on happiness. As each expressed what happiness meant to them, I understood and felt it as a rejoicing in all that proved to be of profound delight in their hearts. What was salient in their takes on happiness was a feeling, a connection, and an alignment with spirit: a complete and selfless, unconditional love of life and love for oneself.

After my family and friends expressed what happiness meant to them, I was left with an unwavering desire to define happiness for myself. I questioned whether mere instances in our lives would be the only defining moments that made us achieve this state or could we live happily all the time?

Here is my take on happiness:

“In many ways, the result of this search for my own happiness led me to believe that it is as simple and as sweet as one’s own joie de vivre. I can’t recall the exact date when all this started to happen, but I clearly remember a consistency that came with waking up day after day and being content and filled with gratitude for the light of another day. Not to mention, how truly blessed I was for seeing my life as beautiful and, even more, living it as such. The great and late pianist of the twentieth century, Arthur Rubinstein, once said, ‘I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.’ Pure and simple. I can think of no better way of expressing this sentiment of a constant state of happiness other than to see life as beautiful and to love it. For me, this has translated as living life to the fullest with joy and peace in our hearts because this is what we feel and have within us; it’s who we are. And when we radiate this love, it follows that we not only see our environment and others in a different light, but we also take pleasure and delight through the benefit of receiving love in return. And, for the first time, I wasn’t seeing my life through rose-colored glasses. Happiness wasn’t the result of luck as I had once thought, but it was the result of my unyielding pursuit of it. I had come into harmony on my own accord and I was truly happy.”

What makes you happy? What do you define as happiness?