I’m with the Band – Estoy con los Músicos

I’m with the Band

Last night, I went out with my boyfriend to see a friend of ours play with his band. As we were driving home with him, we began to talk about things we each loved like music, writing, fishing, and golfing. We talked about the music business and making it in music.

I  told him that I was once married to a musician, but we divorced. We briefly chatted on all the difficulties and adversities that comes from being with someone in a band for the musician and the family too. After dropping him off, I couldn’t help but to start thinking again about my life as a musician’s wife. As a musician’s spouse, there are sacrifices in your home and relationship. He had many practices and gigs, and I wasn’t able to go to all of them. Often times, I’d stay home alone. And many of those times, I longed to be with him, but for many reasons, I couldn’t accompany him. The times I did stay, I sometimes would go to my mom’s house, but I shunned my friends altogether. Looking back, this was the perfect opportunity to have spent time with them.

There were some times when I was able to go with him and I’d love seeing him play! The gigs were so much fun! And, of course, I’d get to go backstage with them and tell the security guards, “I’m with the band.”

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Source: http://www.audioinkradio.com

Luckily, for us, our financial situation was good. As a struggling musician’s wife, this could have been another obstacle in our marriage, but it wasn’t.

And believe it or not, girls were not a problem either. People often would ask me, “Aren’t you jealous of the groupies and all his girls fans?” I almost always responded, “No.” I trusted him. My marriage did not end as a result of infidelity.

 In the end,  like with everything else, it was all about balancing everything. One that required a lot of communication, and above all, love. 

Are you a musician or an artist’s spouse? Are you with someone pursuing his/her passion?

Estoy con los Músicos

Anoche salí con mi novio par aver un amigo tocar con su banda. Mientras manejabamos a la casa, hablamos de todo lo que nos encanta como la música, la escritura, la pesca y el golf. Hablamos de lo que es la industria de la música  y lo difícil de ser exitoso en la música.

Le dije que estuve casada con un músico, pero nos divorciamos. También hablamos de las dificultades que vienen con estar con un músico y para su familia. Después de dejarlo en su casa, empecé a pensar otra vez de mi vida como esposa de un músico. El tenía muchos ensayos y tocadas y no podía ir todo el tiempo. A veces, me quedaba en la casa sola. Y muchas de esas veces anhelaba estar con él, pero por diferente razones no podía acompañarlo. A veces iba a la casa de mi mamá cuando me quedaba y casi dejé de hablar con mis amigos. Esta era la oportunidad perfecta para pasar tiempo con ellos.

Hubo algunas veces donde tuve la oportunidad de ir con él y verlo tocar. ¡Cómo me encantaba! ¡Me divertía mucho en las tocadas! Y, por supuesto, me gustaba ir detrás del escenario y decirle a seguridad. “Estoy con los músicos.”

Source: www.audioinkradio.com
Source: http://www.audioinkradio.com

Afortunadamente, nuestra situación económica estaba bien. Como la esposa de un artista en ciernes, esto podría haber sido un obstáculo en nuestro matrimonio, pero no lo fue.

Y créanlo o no, las chicas no eran un problema tampoco. La gente siempre me preguntaba, “No estás celosa de las groupies y de todas las muchachas que son fanáticas de ellos?” Casi siempre les contestaba, “No.” Yo confiaba en él.  Mi matrimonio no terminó por infedelidad.

Al final, era una cuestión de balancear todo. Aprendí que nuestra relación requería comunicación y, sobretodo, amor.

¿Estás con alguien que está dedicado a su pasión? ¿Cómo balanceas todo?

2 thoughts on “I’m with the Band – Estoy con los Músicos

  1. I read the description on the book and it sounds like a good read. There are many things that happen when married to a musician that don’t really happen in “regular” marriages. The times that I was able to join him were fun and exciting though!

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